I realized this week that there is really nothing significant that has happened, NOT that it's a bad thing because things have been going absolutely amazing for Maria and I.
Getting to talk on the phone every day certainly makes me overjoyed. I've become really happy the last week or so because just getting to hear her voice makes everything a million times better. I've been super stressed with trying to get my second job all situated but she helps reduce some of the stress and makes me happy. I'm just so lucky to have her, that's really the jist of it. :)
Anyways, so Valentines is coming up. Her school does this thing where you can get this slip of paper to have a note delivered to someone of your choice, a cute message of sorts. Because I'm not there [obviously] Maria asked if I could fill one out, I said absolutely! I had planned on sending her a letter for Valentines day anyways... and so the slip is a bonus. The only thing I'll give away in the letter, without giving TOO much away (In case she sees this post.... which is very likely cause she looks at it every day almost... :P) is that in the letter, I put a portion about how she shouldn't get discouraged about seeing the happy couples together on Valentines day because they will never have the amount of passion and love her and I have. Statistically, not many high school relationships last. But with Maria, it's different.... we know what things we want out of life, we know how we connect with eachother, we know that our love and promises are genuine, and lastly... we just know we want to spend the rest of our lives together. We both mean far too much to eachother to not make it. We strive so hard to stay together and that why despite EVERYTHING we've been put through, we've pushed through and made it out stronger than before, and plus, we don't take promises lightly. So I just essentially wanted her to know in that portion of the letter that even though I'm not with her for V-day, I still love her and connect with her beyond those other couples.
I guess I ended up having more content than I thought I would. :P
So that's LDR Tuesday this week. Maria, I love you sweetheart... don't get discouraged. ok?
:)
Tuesday, January 29, 2013
Monday, January 28, 2013
Monday Skateboarding: Skate and Create rant...
So this week is about Transworld Magazine's Skate and Create video series. First off, I'll explain what Skate and Create is and then go into said rant.
Skate and Create is a video series that Transworld Skateboarding magazine puts out each year. I believe it started in 2008 but I'm not 100% on that, I am however very familiar with what it is. 4 skate teams would be given 9 days to create a video inside a set warehouse (that every team would use) using only the props, obstacles, ramps, rails, and manny boxes provided... with some leniency on other miscellaneous props. (see Etnies skate and create 09' below). They'd have to use creativity and good skateboarding to have their video stand out. My personal favorite year was 2009. It saw some of the best creativity and it's really the series that got me hooked. I also was inspired by it to become a videographer for skateboarding just so I could make those videos. Things changed though in recent years for Skate and Create which is why I'm going to be ranting about it. I had went back and watched 2008's videos and they did catch my eye. Not bad for a first season. DVS especially made it awesome.
Since 2009, I saw a vast drop in creativity. Teams had less care put into the videos and it became less exciting to watch each year. The main thing though, 2012. The series changed up and went outside the warehouse. The warehouse would make it so that they HAD to be creative. But with recent trends now, everybody is focused on who has the biggest tricks at the best spots. It was quite unfortunate. The 2013 videos should be coming out shortly and we'll see how they stack up to the current status on Skate and Create.
Allow me to list my favorite videos below...
Starting with DVS's 2009 video, "Wood"...
This one is and will always be my favorite video. The reason I enjoyed it so much is because it's simple, yet amazingly put together. They used a simple white, bright background and used their obstacles in different ways. The doubles action looked outstanding, as well as the music cues, and filmography. This was the real inspiration for me to want to do this.... how simple editing and filming can make a video look so stunning.
Etnies 2009 feature, "The Legend of Boxton Square"...
Now this one also really stood out to me because of their creativity with the cardboard "world" they created. The somewhat story line they have is impressive as well as the skateboarding. Plus, it has Sean Malto.... there's a big reason why it's so good... the guy SHREDS. Anyway, getting off topic. This came in a VERY close second for me on favorite because of how well it was put together. It's actually really hard to pick between this and "Wood" but I think I find the filming more impressive in "Wood" which is why...
Circa's 2009 feature "Broken Dreams"... (last 2009 one because DC's "In the City" was just terrible")
As you can see, 2009 was an awesome year for Skate and Create. Other videos to check out are Adida's 2010 feature "Light, Shape, Color" because of their illusions with paint, their simple yet elegant feel, and editing. Another would be Fallen's 2010 video "Lose your Illusion" which is like Adida's in some ways. The only one from 2010 that really stood out to me though would be Lakai's "Lakairomania". I'll show this one because it is pretty impressive as well.
This one is up there with the 2009 features because of its creativity. Their use of fire and editing was well done. Music choice was a bit annoying but overall, an awesome video.
I couldn't seem to find anything on 2011 Skate and Create so it's possible that they skipped a year to prepare for 2012's videos.
The whole purpose of all the other explanations and videos was because if you watch those and see what 2012 compares to, it just doesn't. It was dreadful. The lack of creativity and the scheme change made it quite disappointing. My hopes are that for 2013, they move back into the warehouse and into Skate and Create's roots.
So last part of this blog is 2012's feature from the Creature "fiends" skate team, "Skate Wars" which is an urban video... quite depressing... just watch.
So I'd like to know any thoughts on how people feel about Skate and Create... whether you believe it's gotten better or worse? Favorite video? Favorite season altogether? Just comment and discuss. Peace... I'm out.
Saturday, January 26, 2013
Saturday Randomness: Life Updates.
So lately, I've had quite a bit going on in my life. Not really anything bad.... just very busy.
I guess to start, since I had moved back in with my parents, I had been looking for a second job after filling out countless applications. Oddly enough though, the one application that called me was one from Carl's Jr. (Or Hardee's depending on where you live) which I had turned in right before getting hired at KFC. I got hired at KFC almost a year ago come April. I just thought it was odd that Carl's Jr. kept my application that long. O.o But anyways, I went to my interview and got hired right after the interview even though I was supposed to be given a second interview. The reason for this was because I had cook experience over at KFC and that's what they were looking for at Carl's Jr.
My main motivation for wanting to get a second job is because (as some may know, if you've kept up with the rest of my blog) my girlfriend's prom is around May 11th. I desperately want to be there, so I've been trying hard to get a second job to save in time. I worry though that I won't be able to in time because one of the stipulations living at my parent's house is that I also have to save for an apartment. I did get my W2 yesterday, so I'll be using all of my tax money towards saving for my Ohio fund. It is going to be about $347 that I'll be getting, so that pays for a little over half of it. That takes some stress down. I have 4 months to save another $2-300.... I hope I can do it. Even though this isn't expected to happen (what I'm about to say, not the prom thing)... I'd still like to ask for donations.... I mean it in utmost sincerity. Even just a dollar a person would help.... and hell, if I got 100 people to give me a dollar, that would help tremendously. And I couldn't even express the gratitude I would have for each individual. Of course, I doubt that'd happen. I just was putting it out there because being there for her prom is really important to me.
Aside from all that though, I started working front at KFC, so I'll be getting some more hours there and I should be starting at Carl's Jr. shortly.
Other than all of that busy stuff, I haven't really done much of anything else. It's ALWAYS freaking raining in Oregon so I can't go skate as often as I like. However, because Maria got her phone back about a week ago, I've been talking to her just about every day and it's amazing. I certainly missed her. That's all I'm going to say about that though cause that's what my LDR posts are for. :P Also, my friend Trevor (who inspired me to do this blog and has one of his own that I'm following.... *hint *hint.... go follow him ;)....) and I are writing a pretty awesome song. We've been working pretty long on this song and I'll be sure to post it on a Music Wednesday post when it's finished. Be sure to check it. :)
That's about all that's going on in my life right now. I'm still waiting for questions or comments.... so git on it! Just kidding.... it's just nice to have views for who actually cares about my life... :P
Have a cute puppy... (Sorry to steal some of your thunder Trevor, but just LOOK at him! :D)....
I guess to start, since I had moved back in with my parents, I had been looking for a second job after filling out countless applications. Oddly enough though, the one application that called me was one from Carl's Jr. (Or Hardee's depending on where you live) which I had turned in right before getting hired at KFC. I got hired at KFC almost a year ago come April. I just thought it was odd that Carl's Jr. kept my application that long. O.o But anyways, I went to my interview and got hired right after the interview even though I was supposed to be given a second interview. The reason for this was because I had cook experience over at KFC and that's what they were looking for at Carl's Jr.
My main motivation for wanting to get a second job is because (as some may know, if you've kept up with the rest of my blog) my girlfriend's prom is around May 11th. I desperately want to be there, so I've been trying hard to get a second job to save in time. I worry though that I won't be able to in time because one of the stipulations living at my parent's house is that I also have to save for an apartment. I did get my W2 yesterday, so I'll be using all of my tax money towards saving for my Ohio fund. It is going to be about $347 that I'll be getting, so that pays for a little over half of it. That takes some stress down. I have 4 months to save another $2-300.... I hope I can do it. Even though this isn't expected to happen (what I'm about to say, not the prom thing)... I'd still like to ask for donations.... I mean it in utmost sincerity. Even just a dollar a person would help.... and hell, if I got 100 people to give me a dollar, that would help tremendously. And I couldn't even express the gratitude I would have for each individual. Of course, I doubt that'd happen. I just was putting it out there because being there for her prom is really important to me.
Aside from all that though, I started working front at KFC, so I'll be getting some more hours there and I should be starting at Carl's Jr. shortly.
Other than all of that busy stuff, I haven't really done much of anything else. It's ALWAYS freaking raining in Oregon so I can't go skate as often as I like. However, because Maria got her phone back about a week ago, I've been talking to her just about every day and it's amazing. I certainly missed her. That's all I'm going to say about that though cause that's what my LDR posts are for. :P Also, my friend Trevor (who inspired me to do this blog and has one of his own that I'm following.... *hint *hint.... go follow him ;)....) and I are writing a pretty awesome song. We've been working pretty long on this song and I'll be sure to post it on a Music Wednesday post when it's finished. Be sure to check it. :)
That's about all that's going on in my life right now. I'm still waiting for questions or comments.... so git on it! Just kidding.... it's just nice to have views for who actually cares about my life... :P
Have a cute puppy... (Sorry to steal some of your thunder Trevor, but just LOOK at him! :D)....
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| Dat smile. :) |
Wednesday, January 23, 2013
Music Wednesday: In B-flat project.
Instead of covering a band this week, I thought I'd cover a project..... it's nothing too major but it is really awesome and very well put together.
It's a webpage with 20 different YouTube videos, each with an individual playing an instrument or speaking in a B-flat key signature. When you go to the webpage, you can click on each video or any individual video and play them together and no matter what time you start videos or which ones you play, they will be in sync.
The project was designed by Darren Solomon as a collaborative music project for fun, but ended up gaining a lot of popularity.... mostly because, well.... it's impressive as hell. He thought of it because he had realized that you can play multiple YouTube videos at a time. So he decided to record his own instrument parts and sent out submission emails to further expand the project. He plays the instruments in videos 1,2,3,4, and 6 if looked at from left to right. The instruments he played are, the glass marimba, electric guitar, Kaoss Pad/synth, Rhodes electric piano, and the electric bass
The project has people from all over the world who simply play in the key of B-flat. It includes some guitar, bass, violin, trumpet, various synth instruments, and more.
When I stumbled across the project, I was blown away. The amount of passion that each individual puts into their video is peaceful. It's quite fun to play around with and there's something about it that feels inspirational.
Definitely have a go at it.... here is the link --> In B-flat.
It's a webpage with 20 different YouTube videos, each with an individual playing an instrument or speaking in a B-flat key signature. When you go to the webpage, you can click on each video or any individual video and play them together and no matter what time you start videos or which ones you play, they will be in sync.
The project was designed by Darren Solomon as a collaborative music project for fun, but ended up gaining a lot of popularity.... mostly because, well.... it's impressive as hell. He thought of it because he had realized that you can play multiple YouTube videos at a time. So he decided to record his own instrument parts and sent out submission emails to further expand the project. He plays the instruments in videos 1,2,3,4, and 6 if looked at from left to right. The instruments he played are, the glass marimba, electric guitar, Kaoss Pad/synth, Rhodes electric piano, and the electric bass
The project has people from all over the world who simply play in the key of B-flat. It includes some guitar, bass, violin, trumpet, various synth instruments, and more.
When I stumbled across the project, I was blown away. The amount of passion that each individual puts into their video is peaceful. It's quite fun to play around with and there's something about it that feels inspirational.
Definitely have a go at it.... here is the link --> In B-flat.
Monday, January 21, 2013
LDR Tuesday: Another happy update. :)
I realize that I'm writing this a day before hand, but this is always my favorite blog day because it gives a chance to talk about my lovely girlfriend. I can't help but write early because I get so excited. :D
So, about 2-3 days ago, we got the ability to talk on the phone again. Her dad is being really understanding and supportive and I can't thank him enough. Being able to hear her voice makes things a million times better. Our conversations have more meaning because we are able to hear the sincerity in our voices and our patterns of attitudes. We've talked A LOT these past couple days and it's so amazing. I've been really happy. :) I've also become more comfortable to talk to her about certain things and even though to some, this may not seem like a big deal, but now I'm comfortable enough to actually SAY "Baby", "Babe", "Sweetheart", etc. She loves nicknames... especially "angel" :) I love the way we talk and tease. It shows how real we are together.
In OTHER exciting news that could potentially be very huge, I got a second job on Saturday and am starting within the next week. Having a second job is going to allow me to save money to go be at her prom. That is my biggest goal right now because I desperately want to be there. I think about what it's going to be like to hold her in my arms, to kiss her in the spotlight of the dance floor, to sway to our song and whisper in her ear that I love her. I think about these things every day because I want them so badly. When you love somebody this much, you see a beautiful future with them. I know that when I come out of that terminal at the airport and see her, I'm going to run up to her and hold her as time and the world stops around us. I'm willing to admit that I may cry tears of joy when that happens because this relationship and having her as my girlfriend, means everything to me. I know she'll cry.... and I'll actually BE there to wipe her tears away. I just hope this happens... I need it to.
So pretty soon, we might also get the ability to start skyping again. I certainly can't wait for that. I miss her smile and her eyes. I miss the way she looks at me. When she looks at me, I can see that she loves me. There's something about the way she looks at me, that makes my heart beat fast. I just can't wait!!
So, about 2-3 days ago, we got the ability to talk on the phone again. Her dad is being really understanding and supportive and I can't thank him enough. Being able to hear her voice makes things a million times better. Our conversations have more meaning because we are able to hear the sincerity in our voices and our patterns of attitudes. We've talked A LOT these past couple days and it's so amazing. I've been really happy. :) I've also become more comfortable to talk to her about certain things and even though to some, this may not seem like a big deal, but now I'm comfortable enough to actually SAY "Baby", "Babe", "Sweetheart", etc. She loves nicknames... especially "angel" :) I love the way we talk and tease. It shows how real we are together.
In OTHER exciting news that could potentially be very huge, I got a second job on Saturday and am starting within the next week. Having a second job is going to allow me to save money to go be at her prom. That is my biggest goal right now because I desperately want to be there. I think about what it's going to be like to hold her in my arms, to kiss her in the spotlight of the dance floor, to sway to our song and whisper in her ear that I love her. I think about these things every day because I want them so badly. When you love somebody this much, you see a beautiful future with them. I know that when I come out of that terminal at the airport and see her, I'm going to run up to her and hold her as time and the world stops around us. I'm willing to admit that I may cry tears of joy when that happens because this relationship and having her as my girlfriend, means everything to me. I know she'll cry.... and I'll actually BE there to wipe her tears away. I just hope this happens... I need it to.
So pretty soon, we might also get the ability to start skyping again. I certainly can't wait for that. I miss her smile and her eyes. I miss the way she looks at me. When she looks at me, I can see that she loves me. There's something about the way she looks at me, that makes my heart beat fast. I just can't wait!!
Monday Skateboarding: Heath Ledger [surprisngly] was a skateboarder.
So this surprised me a lot. I had found a picture on "Reddit.com" of Heath Ledger skateboarding over Christian Bale. And what's cool about it, is the fact that it looks like it could be a well executed heelflip.
Here's the photo...
Some argue that the board is photo shopped in and it seems logical, however, Ledger is known to be an actual skateboarder. Here is some more proof of photos...
He also played in the movie, "Lords of Dogtown." The movie is a biographical film about the Z-boys who were an influential group of skateboarders. The film was written by the great Stacy Peralta. Heath Ledger played as Skip Engblom. He was very congratulated at how well he played the position of Engblom. The film was released in 2005.
Unfortunately, I couldn't find an individual scene of him skateboarding in "Lords of Dogtown" but I found a scene with him and other people. He's the one with the short blonde hair, black shirt over a gray shirt. I'm not 100% on this, but I heard that he actually did do his own skateboarding in that scene.
I found it to be surprising and interesting that he was a skateboarder. I just wanted to give it a share. He was also known to be a surfer, of course.... it's not surprising coming from an Australian.
R.I.P Heath. You were a great actor and awesome skater (from what I could see)
Hope you enjoyed this post...
Here's the photo...
Some argue that the board is photo shopped in and it seems logical, however, Ledger is known to be an actual skateboarder. Here is some more proof of photos...
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| Just cruising on a skateboard. |
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| Ok, grant it... this is a longboard, but it still kinda counts. |
He also played in the movie, "Lords of Dogtown." The movie is a biographical film about the Z-boys who were an influential group of skateboarders. The film was written by the great Stacy Peralta. Heath Ledger played as Skip Engblom. He was very congratulated at how well he played the position of Engblom. The film was released in 2005.
Unfortunately, I couldn't find an individual scene of him skateboarding in "Lords of Dogtown" but I found a scene with him and other people. He's the one with the short blonde hair, black shirt over a gray shirt. I'm not 100% on this, but I heard that he actually did do his own skateboarding in that scene.
I found it to be surprising and interesting that he was a skateboarder. I just wanted to give it a share. He was also known to be a surfer, of course.... it's not surprising coming from an Australian.
R.I.P Heath. You were a great actor and awesome skater (from what I could see)
Hope you enjoyed this post...
Saturday, January 19, 2013
Saturday Post: Being true to yourself (and other things)
This is going to be a more serious post this week. I like to help people who are in need of a friend or someone to talk to. I've had several instances where a friend or even an acquaintance has been depressed or having suicidal thoughts and I've been able to help them out of it. My goal for this is to convince those of you who are struggling through depression and hurt, that life can always get better and that being yourself and being optimistic will always make you feel better.
I have a lot of experience in being depressed. There were times where I felt like I couldn't do anything because of all the emotions flooding in. The best way to find something to cope with that, is to find an outlet, find that ONE thing that can make you happy or at least feel a little better. It can be a simple thing like listening to music or drawing. Mine is skateboarding. I've found that it can solve any painful point in life because it's something I'm very passionate about. If you find an outlet that you enjoy but aren't necessarily good at it (if it were something like playing guitar or drawing), it doesn't matter. It's supposed to make you feel better.... if you sit there and compare your work to others, it's not going to help at all. The whole point of having an outlet is to feel good about what you're doing and not letting anything distract you from that. The reason for the outlet is to redirect your attention from the pain you are feeling, to something more fun and productive.
A lot of times though, people may not be able to find an outlet because they can't find something that CAN actually redirect their attention. Sometimes depression can get the best of you depending on what it is you are depressed about. Common things are; trying to feel accepted, losing a girlfriend/boyfriend, people being mean to you, etc. I'll try to tackle each of these problems in the easiest way possible....
Not Feeling Accepted: This is a common problem with us teens, as we try to find ourselves and where we fit in. Unfortunately, human nature is to judge somebody first before getting to know them. The best way to get rid of the unaccepted feeling is to love yourself for who you are. Who cares what negative things others say about you? Everyone is unique to themselves and it's what separates us. If everybody was the same, think of the monotonous boring world we'd live in. One doesn't NEED to be accepted if they are proud of who they are. However, no matter what... you'll always be excepted by at least 1 person and most likely more than that because in all reality, there is 7 billion people in the world, you are bound to find somebody who accepts you. And also, it's not vital to have a lot of friends. Having even just one close friend can make all the difference. It's better to have 1 person who actually cares about you than a bunch of people who pretend to care.
Losing a gf/bf: For some people, it's like the end of the world. You were in a loving relationship with somebody, and then it's over in the blink of an eye. You may feel like you can never have as good of a relationship as the one you had. This is never the case. I used to think like that too, but there's a saying that states, "One day, there will be that one person who comes along and makes you realize why it never worked with anyone else" (Or along those lines). Again to my statement in the "not feeling accepted portion", there is around 7 billion people in the world, you are bound to find 1 person who loves you endlessly. If you've been keeping up with my LDR posts, I had that happen to me. I was distraught when my ex and I broke up and I felt like relationships would always be a burden from then on, but that was until I met Maria. She made all that pain go away and is the girl I'm going to marry someday. So with that said, it's no use being too upset about a break-up. Love comes to those who are patient. And there will always be someone for everyone.
People Treating You Harshly: No matter what, there will always be people who are going to treat you like dirt, like somebody who is below them. It's a sad fact. But if they are not physically harming you, there's no reason to be upset. If they can't be nice to you when you've done nothing wrong to them, it shows their lack of compassion. A lot of the times, there's something within themselves that they don't like or somebody treats them badly, so they try to take it out on somebody "weaker" than them. To defeat that, simply just shrug it off. Words only do so much damage. You can destroy a person's psyche by ignoring their ignorance. If you show that you don't care about the mean things they have to say, you are winning. They aren't getting their gratification from making you upset and eventually they'll see how ineffective it is and stop. It won't do any good to them being mean to you if you simply don't care. So next time somebody is verbally harassing you, look them in the eyes and say to them, "Cool... That's your opinon.... it doesn't affect me any" with a smile on your face the whole time. It'll destroy them psychologically.
Suicidal Thoughts: Life is not always easy. In fact, there's probably more hardships than good things that happen. But that's why humans are designed to live so long (aside from accidental causes of death like car wrecks and stuff). You can take the bad things in life and learn from them. Take a different path and make your life better. Back to the outlet part... outlets can really get you out of the negative groove you're in. Everybody will find one thing that they actually love to do and use that to your advantage. I believe that suicide is just a sense of giving up. You give up before things can get better when in reality, they always will, no matter what. Optimism is a key factor in allowing life to get better. With optimism, you have more of a set path you are going because subconsciously, you push for it. The more optimistic you are, the more likely you will be to obtain something.... this is because you don't give the option for failure. You'll find that chasing after the things you want in life... even if they are small things.... will get you on the fast track to happiness. Stick to a goal and put it in motion. But also, and this is going to sound a little bit harsh, suicide is kind of a sense of selfishness. Whether you believe it or not, there will always be at least one person who loves you and killing yourself only leaves them behind. It makes them sad and nobody likes to be sad. You gain nothing from suicide. Your life is over and that's it, no more laughing with people, no more doing fun things, no vacations, no more playing games with family, no chance at finding an amazing girlfriend who loves you for all that you are, not of that.... it's gone forever. You miss out on the things that can eventually get better EVEN IF it takes time.... but there is plenty of time. Find ways to occupy that wait in the meantime.
That's essentially all that I feel needs to be said. I hope I helped. Remember that life isn't always bad. You gotta give time to allow it to get better and not all people are bad either, there will always be good people in the world. You have to meet them to find them instead of judging right away. I met some amazing friends who I would've otherwise judged for the way they act if I hadn't actually got to know them.
<--- Be like this happy guy in a sea of sad people. :)
Have a good day! :)
I have a lot of experience in being depressed. There were times where I felt like I couldn't do anything because of all the emotions flooding in. The best way to find something to cope with that, is to find an outlet, find that ONE thing that can make you happy or at least feel a little better. It can be a simple thing like listening to music or drawing. Mine is skateboarding. I've found that it can solve any painful point in life because it's something I'm very passionate about. If you find an outlet that you enjoy but aren't necessarily good at it (if it were something like playing guitar or drawing), it doesn't matter. It's supposed to make you feel better.... if you sit there and compare your work to others, it's not going to help at all. The whole point of having an outlet is to feel good about what you're doing and not letting anything distract you from that. The reason for the outlet is to redirect your attention from the pain you are feeling, to something more fun and productive.
A lot of times though, people may not be able to find an outlet because they can't find something that CAN actually redirect their attention. Sometimes depression can get the best of you depending on what it is you are depressed about. Common things are; trying to feel accepted, losing a girlfriend/boyfriend, people being mean to you, etc. I'll try to tackle each of these problems in the easiest way possible....
Not Feeling Accepted: This is a common problem with us teens, as we try to find ourselves and where we fit in. Unfortunately, human nature is to judge somebody first before getting to know them. The best way to get rid of the unaccepted feeling is to love yourself for who you are. Who cares what negative things others say about you? Everyone is unique to themselves and it's what separates us. If everybody was the same, think of the monotonous boring world we'd live in. One doesn't NEED to be accepted if they are proud of who they are. However, no matter what... you'll always be excepted by at least 1 person and most likely more than that because in all reality, there is 7 billion people in the world, you are bound to find somebody who accepts you. And also, it's not vital to have a lot of friends. Having even just one close friend can make all the difference. It's better to have 1 person who actually cares about you than a bunch of people who pretend to care.
Losing a gf/bf: For some people, it's like the end of the world. You were in a loving relationship with somebody, and then it's over in the blink of an eye. You may feel like you can never have as good of a relationship as the one you had. This is never the case. I used to think like that too, but there's a saying that states, "One day, there will be that one person who comes along and makes you realize why it never worked with anyone else" (Or along those lines). Again to my statement in the "not feeling accepted portion", there is around 7 billion people in the world, you are bound to find 1 person who loves you endlessly. If you've been keeping up with my LDR posts, I had that happen to me. I was distraught when my ex and I broke up and I felt like relationships would always be a burden from then on, but that was until I met Maria. She made all that pain go away and is the girl I'm going to marry someday. So with that said, it's no use being too upset about a break-up. Love comes to those who are patient. And there will always be someone for everyone.
People Treating You Harshly: No matter what, there will always be people who are going to treat you like dirt, like somebody who is below them. It's a sad fact. But if they are not physically harming you, there's no reason to be upset. If they can't be nice to you when you've done nothing wrong to them, it shows their lack of compassion. A lot of the times, there's something within themselves that they don't like or somebody treats them badly, so they try to take it out on somebody "weaker" than them. To defeat that, simply just shrug it off. Words only do so much damage. You can destroy a person's psyche by ignoring their ignorance. If you show that you don't care about the mean things they have to say, you are winning. They aren't getting their gratification from making you upset and eventually they'll see how ineffective it is and stop. It won't do any good to them being mean to you if you simply don't care. So next time somebody is verbally harassing you, look them in the eyes and say to them, "Cool... That's your opinon.... it doesn't affect me any" with a smile on your face the whole time. It'll destroy them psychologically.
Suicidal Thoughts: Life is not always easy. In fact, there's probably more hardships than good things that happen. But that's why humans are designed to live so long (aside from accidental causes of death like car wrecks and stuff). You can take the bad things in life and learn from them. Take a different path and make your life better. Back to the outlet part... outlets can really get you out of the negative groove you're in. Everybody will find one thing that they actually love to do and use that to your advantage. I believe that suicide is just a sense of giving up. You give up before things can get better when in reality, they always will, no matter what. Optimism is a key factor in allowing life to get better. With optimism, you have more of a set path you are going because subconsciously, you push for it. The more optimistic you are, the more likely you will be to obtain something.... this is because you don't give the option for failure. You'll find that chasing after the things you want in life... even if they are small things.... will get you on the fast track to happiness. Stick to a goal and put it in motion. But also, and this is going to sound a little bit harsh, suicide is kind of a sense of selfishness. Whether you believe it or not, there will always be at least one person who loves you and killing yourself only leaves them behind. It makes them sad and nobody likes to be sad. You gain nothing from suicide. Your life is over and that's it, no more laughing with people, no more doing fun things, no vacations, no more playing games with family, no chance at finding an amazing girlfriend who loves you for all that you are, not of that.... it's gone forever. You miss out on the things that can eventually get better EVEN IF it takes time.... but there is plenty of time. Find ways to occupy that wait in the meantime.
That's essentially all that I feel needs to be said. I hope I helped. Remember that life isn't always bad. You gotta give time to allow it to get better and not all people are bad either, there will always be good people in the world. You have to meet them to find them instead of judging right away. I met some amazing friends who I would've otherwise judged for the way they act if I hadn't actually got to know them.
<--- Be like this happy guy in a sea of sad people. :)Have a good day! :)
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